A narcissist is a person who thinks highly of themselves, needs admiration, and looks down on others without empathy. A narcissist believes others are of lower rank, status, or quality.
We must have come across a narcissist perhaps once in our lifetime. They could be family members, co-workers, or even your partner. How can you deal with a toxic person? Well, there are several ways, depending on the situation you find yourself in.
How To Deal With A Narcissist Boss
A narcissistic boss is usually someone who feels entitled to privileges that others don’t have. They believe they deserve special treatment for all of the “good” things they do on behalf of their employees or company. In many cases, this behavior will present itself as a form of manipulation in the workplace.
At work, you should always respect those above you, but you should not be intimidated or feel controlled by them. Your boss might give you an attitude you don’t like, but you always have to be careful how you respond to this. They have the power to terminate your contract. Actually, some bosses might be narcissists as they see those below them as inferior and always think highly of themselves.
When your boss gives you this attitude of thinking highly of themselves alone, you should just play along with them. Remember, you don’t have to participate in their conversation, and you wouldn’t want to interrupt a narcissist while they’re speaking.
Don’t Try To Please Them
Don’t go as far as trying to please a narcissist boss. What do you take them for? Though they talk more about themselves to you and put their trust in you, they can end up saying negative things about you to other coworkers.
Avoid Them By Doing Something Productive
You should not ignore a narcissist boss. Ignoring him means you’re fed up with their attitude and they could get you fired. You can avoid them by doing something that’s work-related. You shouldn’t ignore them while you are on your phone or computer.
Act As If You’re Listening When They Speak
When they are discussing a topic that’s not work related but about themselves and their achievements, then you’ll have to pretend that you’re listening. Narcissists are proud. They want to use others to get more results and see it as their success.
How To Deal With A Narcissist Ex
Why do you have to deal with a narcissist ex when you already broke up? Well, as time goes on, they will try to blame the breakup on you and say things you never imagined they would say. How do you know if your partner is a narcissist? It’s quite simple. Narcissists are well known for playing mind games because they help to reinforce their hold over current or past victims. They’ll resort to love bombing, self-esteem reduction, and emotional manipulation to keep their partner under their thumb.
Admit When You’re Wrong
You should admit when you’re wrong, knowing fully well you were not manipulated to say you were wrong. You shouldn’t blame everything on them. At some point, you must have done something in the relationship that they didn’t like. You can’t be in a relationship with a narcissist and give them less attention.
Don’t Try To Get Back To Them
Do narcissists miss their exs after no contact? Now you might be thinking that the narcissist really misses you, and the answer is yes, they do, but not in the way you hope. You know you should get back to them (if you still love them) if they keep calling and asking to build the relationship again. You should give them a few conditions that will make your relationship stronger.
How To Deal With A Narcissist Family Member
Dealing with a narcissist boss might not be as difficult as it seems. Dealing with someone you see every day, like your family member, can be difficult.
Avoiding Direct Confrontation
You shouldn’t have a direct conversation with them about their behaviour. If they are a member that everyone respects, then you should know when to speak up. You might not be the only one getting this treatment from this particular person.
Don’t Accept Harmful Behaviors
Don’t accept behaviour that will put you in harm’s way. Don’t try to play mind games with a narcissist family member; it might come back to haunt you later on. They may be smarter than they appear, but don’t put them to the test.
You should set limits to what those family members can do or say. Now it doesn’t matter who’s older, you don’t have to be intimidated when negative things are said about you. Stand up for yourself and tell them you’re not joking around.
Get Support and Professional Counseling
You should consult a professional on how you can deal with that narcissist family member. If things aren’t working for you at home, mainly because of the narcissist, then you get support.
How To Deal With A Narcissist Father
A narcissistic parent is a parent affected by narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder. Typically, narcissistic parents are exclusively and possessively close to their children and are threatened by their children’s growing independence. Signs of a father being a narcissist include if he is self-centered, vain, does not take criticism well, demands perfection, and goes into rages. Daughters of narcissistic fathers may feel they never get enough attention. Sons of narcissistic dads may feel they can never measure up.
How Do You Know a Narcissist?
How can you identify a narcissist? You can easily identify them by having just a short moment with them. They can’t have a proper conversation without saying a few things about their awesome life.
- Self-concern, self-centeredness, and self-awareness that is disproportionate
- Extreme sensitivity to negative feedback or criticism
- Significant need for approval from others due to inadequacies that are real or imagined.
- Grandiose sense of self-importance
- They live in a fantasy world that supports their delusions of grandeur
- They needs constant praise and admiration
- Sense of entitlement
- Exploits others without guilt or shame
- They frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies, or belittles others
Narcissism might actually be a disorder. It’s called narcissistic personality disorder. It is a disorder in which a person has an inflated sense of self-importance. Narcissistic personality disorder is found more commonly in men. The cause is unknown but likely involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors. The disorder needs to be diagnosed by a professional. Treatment involves talk therapy.